After 15 years of providing psychic guidance on love and relationships, I’ve learned that attracting true love isn’t just about dating apps and chance encounters. There’s a deeper, energetic component to finding your soulmate that most people never consider.
In this post, I’ll share the spiritual principles I’ve seen work time and again for my clients who’ve found lasting, fulfilling love.
The Energy of Love: What Most People Get Wrong
Love is Magnetic, Not Hunting
Many people approach dating like a job search - actively pursuing, strategizing, and trying to “catch” someone. But love actually works more like magnetism. When your energy is aligned properly, you naturally attract compatible people into your orbit.
I’ve seen this countless times: clients who stop desperately searching and start focusing on their own energy suddenly meet amazing partners in the most unexpected places.
Your Inner State Creates Your Outer Reality
The relationship you have with yourself is the template for all other relationships. If you’re:
- Critical of yourself → You’ll attract critical partners
- Afraid of abandonment → You’ll create situations that confirm that fear
- Unclear about your worth → You’ll settle for less than you deserve
But when you genuinely love and value yourself, you become a magnet for people who see and appreciate your true worth.
The 5 Energetic Steps to Attracting Love
1. Clear Your Energetic Blocks
Past relationship wounds create energetic blocks that repel love, even when you consciously want it. Common blocks include:
- Fear of vulnerability from past betrayals
- Beliefs about not being “enough” from childhood experiences
- Walls around your heart from previous heartbreak
- Conflicting desires (wanting love but fearing loss of independence)
Action Step: Pay attention to your automatic thoughts about love and relationships. Write them down and question whether they’re actually true or just protective beliefs from the past.
2. Get Crystal Clear About What You Want
The universe responds to clarity. Vague wishes like “I want someone nice” don’t create strong magnetic pull. Instead, get specific about:
- Values and character traits that matter most to you
- How you want to feel in the relationship
- The kind of partnership you want to create together
- Your non-negotiables and deal-breakers
Action Step: Write a detailed description of your ideal partner and relationship. Focus more on feelings and values than physical appearance or job titles.
3. Become the Person You Want to Attract
This is where most dating advice gets it backwards. Instead of trying to become what you think someone else wants, become the person who would naturally attract your ideal partner.
If you want someone:
- Confident → Work on your own confidence
- Emotionally available → Heal your own emotional wounds
- Adventurous → Cultivate your own sense of adventure
- Spiritually aware → Deepen your own spiritual practice
Action Step: Look at your ideal partner list and ask: “How can I embody these same qualities?“
4. Raise Your Vibration
Love vibrates at a high frequency. When you’re operating from fear, desperation, or low self-worth, you can’t match love’s vibration. Activities that raise your vibration include:
- Gratitude practices - focusing on what you already have
- Creative expression - art, music, writing, dancing
- Service to others - volunteering, helping friends
- Spiritual practices - meditation, prayer, nature connection
- Joy and play - doing things that make you genuinely happy
Action Step: Make a list of activities that make you feel most alive and joyful. Do at least one daily.
5. Trust Divine Timing
One of the hardest lessons about attracting love is surrendering control over when and how it happens. The universe has perfect timing, even when it doesn’t align with your personal timeline.
I’ve seen clients meet their soulmates:
- Right after ending a difficult relationship
- When they finally stopped looking
- In completely unexpected circumstances
- At ages they thought were “too late”
Action Step: Practice saying “I trust that love is coming to me at the perfect time and in the perfect way.”
Signs Your Soulmate is Near
Based on what I’ve observed in readings, here are common signs that love is approaching:
Energetic Shifts
- Feeling more confident and attractive for no apparent reason
- Sudden clarity about what you want in a relationship
- Past relationship wounds healing naturally
- Increased synchronicities and meaningful coincidences
External Changes
- Friends and family commenting that you seem different
- Unexpected invitations to social events
- New opportunities to meet people appearing
- Your living space feeling ready to share with someone
Intuitive Knowing
- Dreams about meeting someone special
- Strong feeling that “something is about to change”
- Guidance from your intuition to try new activities or visit new places
- A sense of anticipation or excitement about the future
Common Mistakes That Block Love
1. Settling Out of Fear
Accepting incompatible relationships because you’re afraid of being alone actually blocks your true soulmate from reaching you. The universe can’t deliver your ideal partner if you’re energetically unavailable.
2. Trying Too Hard
Desperate energy repels love. When you’re frantically searching, you’re vibrating from lack rather than abundance, which creates more lack.
3. Focusing on Timing
Constantly worrying about your age, your biological clock, or being “behind” creates pressure that blocks natural flow. Love doesn’t follow human timelines.
4. Ignoring Red Flags
Your intuition will always warn you about incompatible people, but many ignore these warnings because they want love so badly. Trust your gut feelings about people.
Working with a Psychic for Love Guidance
As a psychic who specializes in relationships, I can help you:
- Identify and clear energetic blocks that are preventing love from finding you
- Understand karmic patterns from past lives that affect your current relationships
- Recognize your soulmate when they appear in your life
- Navigate timing questions about when love might arrive
- Heal from past relationships so you’re truly ready for new love
Many of my clients have found their soulmates within months of our sessions because they finally understood how to align their energy with love.
Your Love Story is Unfolding
Remember, everyone has a soulmate (often more than one), and yours is actively seeking you too. While you’re working on attracting love, they’re on their own journey, preparing to meet you.
Trust the process, focus on becoming the most authentic version of yourself, and stay open to love arriving in unexpected ways. Your love story is already written - you’re just living it into reality.
Ready to understand your love path more clearly? I’m here to help you identify what’s blocking love and how to attract your soulmate. Call (646) 302-6860 or book your reading online to get personalized guidance on your romantic journey.